Providence Cancer System

What do you do when the doctor asks you Is it worth it when you don't enjoy getting out of the house? When the nurses poke you 12 times just to get the iv in? The doctor told mom to stop chemo and just live.. Mom is 71 and can't keep food down in constant pain, going blind, and walks like a drunk, and lifting her legs to go up stairs is impossible. Mom has kidney cancer ON her lung, which is different than lung cancer. It is rare. The cancer doctor is limited to what he can do. Mom weighs 88 lbs. Mom is 5ft 7in. We know the chemo is working, it is shrinking the bigger tumors, and the others are not growing. She still has 6 weeks to go. I don't want to see her quit just yet. We know the cancer is going to go away, but can stop the spread of it and make what little time left a little easier. And now she thinks it might be best to stop and suffer, and be in pain untill she dies. I want to hit someone, something, scream, kick a wall, and cry. And maybe die a little every day when I see my mom struggle with every day life. The chemo takes alot out of her every week.

Linda, I am so sorry for your current daily anguish -- it is a terrible thing to walk through with your Mother.
Two things come to mind from my experience, one is understanding anticipatory grief - if you google there are some good references that help you understand why the waves of emotions make you feel like the you can't face another day.
The other is to ask if anyone is talking to you about Hospice? We have just begun to have help with Hospice and I feel like it is the gateway to a wealth of support and help for sure. It may be helpful to talk with them and find out what they could suggest.